Planning a wedding can be tough. Sure, it’s a super-happy time of life. After all, you’re getting married! To your best friend! But while it might be a super-happy time, it also tends to be a super-busy time (not to …
25 Great Questions To Help You Look Back On This Year And Plan Ahead for Next Year
Christmas and New Years are coming up fast, and we’re going to take a Christmas break here at Modern Love so that we can focus on plotting and planning for awesome things to come next year (and also so that …
Creating a long distance relationship bucket list
Have you heard of the term ‘bucketlist’? It basically means creating a list of things to do before you “kick the bucket” (or, to put it more bluntly, die). Everyone’s list is different. It may include extravagant things and big …
Planning Ahead For Time Apart In Long Distance Relationships
1. Limit time apart and, whenever possible don’t exceed your “reasonable maximum”.
Limiting time apart is a total no-brainer, but what counts as your “reasonable maximum” will vary from couple to couple. For us, three weeks is our acceptable limit, and a lot of couples I know work by the three-week rule as well. It tends to strike a balance between what families can handle and what people actually need to do their work overseas.
Circumstances beyond our control have meant that Madame InsideOut. and I are apart for longer this time, but we’ve generally been pretty good at sticking to the three-week thing. This is for both our sakes, as we generally find our coping ability matches pretty well. Ten days we can take in our stride. Things get painful around the 2 week mark, and by 2 ½ weeks we’re both pretty much done. We’ll push 3 if we have to, but we don’t like it.
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