Are you looking for a new long-distance date idea? OK, so taking a personality test and comparing the results with your long distance love might not be on the same level of “chill out” as “dinner and a movie on a Friday night”. But look on the bright side …
This is something that can really help you get to know your partner at a deeper level. That will pay off in all sorts of ways. Perhaps most importantly, it can help you understand each other better and communicate more effectively. Who wants dinner and a movie when you can have that?
OK, OK, so I know most of us would take dinner and a movie on Friday night over a long distance date, but sometimes you’ve just got to work with what you have. If you’re stuck with long distance dates this week, why not try something new?
The Enneagram is a nine-sided figure that outlines a spectrum of possible personality types. The Enneagram of Personality is not commonly taught or vigorously researched by academic psychologists, but (similar to the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator) this nuanced test is often used with groups to promote reflection and discussion.
Want to play?
Want to play along? Here’s what I suggest…
- Go to the Eclectic Energies Enneagram Test page
- Choose to take the Classical Enneagram Test
- Answer each question (this will take about 10-15 minutes, more if you pause to think too deeply about some questions)
- After you’re finished you’ll be presented with your results. Click to read up on your main Type.
- Then google your type and your “Wing type” (the test won’t link straight to a description of your wing type the same way that it does for your main type) and read some alternative descriptions of these types.
- Now, answer the following questions. Then discuss the answers with your partner.
- What is your main type?
- Summarize what this means in a way that makes sense to you. How would you explain the characteristics of this type to someone else?
- What were your 2nd and 3rd highest scoring types?
- What is your wing type? What does that mean?
- Do you agree with these results?
- How does this type “fit” you? Describe some things you commonly do and feel that that are in line with your type.
- What are some ways that this type doesn’t “fit” you? Describe some things you commonly do and feel that that are not in line with your type.
Your types together
Think about the common strengths and weaknesses of your type and your partner’s type:
- How could your two types complement each other, and benefit you as a couple?
- What are destructive patterns that might develop or common conflicts you might experience in your relationship?