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Planning Ahead For Time Apart In Long Distance Relationships

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1. Limit time apart and, whenever possible don’t exceed your “reasonable maximum”.

Limiting time apart is a total no-brainer, but what counts as your “reasonable maximum” will vary from couple to couple. For us, three weeks is our acceptable limit, and a lot of couples I know work by the three-week rule as well. It tends to strike a balance between what families can handle and what people actually need to do their work overseas.

Circumstances beyond our control have meant that Madame InsideOut. and I are apart for longer this time, but we’ve generally been pretty good at sticking to the three-week thing. This is for both our sakes, as we generally find our coping ability matches pretty well. Ten days we can take in our stride. Things get painful around the 2 week mark, and by 2 ½ weeks we’re both pretty much done. We’ll push 3 if we have to, but we don’t like it.

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Celebrating two years of marriage, a world apart

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My wife and I just celebrated our two-year wedding anniversary.

By celebrated, I mean, we shared a 25-minute Skype chat via grainy video, which had to be curtailed fairly promptly after staff started queuing outside my office door, waiting to be let in. It was a fairly frustrating experience for me (and even more so for my wife if the expression in her voice was anything to go by as we hung up).

Even a couple of months ago this was certainly not how either of us envisaged sharing our second wedding anniversary. Back then, we were all planning on being here together in Ethiopia as I started my new position. Juggling two careers and getting key dates to coincide, however, has proven tricky. Juggling custody issues and travel permissions related to my stepdaughter has proven even more so. Now we a full hemisphere apart.