When you’re in a LDR you can learn…

  • Communication

    Learn how to communicate well, and get to know each other a deep level

  • Trust

    Road-test your trust

  • Patience

    Develop patience and perseverance

  • Gratitude

    Savor and appreciate the time you do get to spend together

Sure, long distance relationships are hard work. But they have some high highs as well as low lows (how much fun are those visits??). My relationship is stronger and healthier today because of the time we’ve spent long distance.

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My Story


When I first met the man who would become my husband, he was living in Papua New Guinea and I was living in Los Angeles. We wrote letters to each other for months before we ever met (or even talked). We’d been a long distance relationship for about seven months—and only spent 20 days actually in the same country—when he proposed to me. Saying yes was the best decision I’ve ever made.

That was seven years, four moves, and two children ago. Because of his job as an aid worker and mine as a psychologist, we continue to travel for work. We have spent more than a year of our marriage living in different countries. We both believe that the communication skills and habits we have developed because of this have helped our relationship enormously.


I started this website to help you…


  • Understand some of the unique dynamics of long distance relationships
  • Learn ways to communicate better with your long distance partner
  • Hear real-life stories and input from other long-distance couples
  • Find resources, thought-provoking discussion questions, and fun activities

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